I Know a Guy Podcast

When the pastor told you to love your wife as Christ loved the Church, did you have any idea what that actually meant?
Most of us were thinking about what marriage would finally give us—companionship, respect, affection, and yes, sex whenever we wanted it.
Big lie.
In Episode 5 of "Husband, Come Home" on I Know a Guy,we are talking about what Christlike love really looks like: washing feet, laying down pride, listening without defending, offering affection without an agenda, and choosing connection over proving you are right.
This is not passive love, and it is not tolerating abuse.
It is the strength of a beloved son who can serve without keeping score.
The question becomes: what does washing her feet look like today?
Throughout this month of September, when you make a donation of any amount to Bringing Kingdom, we'll send you a copy of The Father Eclipse as our thank-you.
My prayer is that it helps you walk even more confidently in your identity as the Father's beloved son.
Go to BringingKingdom.org/donate to make a gift and where it says "Write a comment" - put The Father Eclipse and we'll send you a copy. Be sure to also leave your mailing address.
 

Your wife is too critical. She does not appreciate you.  She has changed.  And she does many of the same things she accuses you of doing.  Maybe some of that is true.
But in Episode 4 of our series "Husband Come Home" on I Know a Guy, we are asking a harder question: What is yours to own?
Marriage is not healed in a courtroom, and proving that your wife is also guilty will never transform your heart.
It is the courage of a beloved son who can face the truth without being destroyed by it.  
You can spend your marriage pointing at her failures—or you can become the man the Father is inviting you to become.
Stop pointing.  Start owning.
Throughout this month of September, when you make a donation of any amount to Bringing Kingdom, we'll send you a copy of The Father Eclipse as our thank-you.
My prayer is that it helps you walk even more confidently in your identity as the Father's beloved son.
Go to BringingKingdom.org/donate to make a gift and where it says "Write a comment" - put The Father Eclipse and we'll send you a copy. Be sure to also leave your mailing address.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 
 

You may genuinely love your wife—but still have no idea how to connect with her emotionally.
Maybe your father taught you to work, provide, stay strong, and keep moving.
But did he ever show you how to apologize, name what you feel, remain present during conflict, or listen to a woman’s heart without defending yourself?
In Episode 3 of "Husband, Come Home" on I Know a Guy, we are talking about the man nobody taught you to be.
Your childhood may explain why emotional connection is difficult.
But it does not have to determine the husband you become. Your earthly father may not have taught you how to love a woman.
But your heavenly Father is willing to teach you now.
Throughout this month of September, when you make a donation of any amount to Bringing Kingdom, we'll send you a copy of The Father Eclipse as our thank-you.
My prayer is that it helps you walk even more confidently in your identity as the Father's beloved son.
Go to BringingKingdom.org/donate to make a gift and where it says "Write a comment" - put The Father Eclipse and we'll send you a copy. Be sure to also leave your mailing address.

You work hard because you love your family.
You carry responsibility. You pay the bills. You provide a good life.
But somewhere along the way, has providing become a substitute for presence?
Your employer gets your energy. Your customers get your creativity. Your coworkers get your conversation.
And your wife gets whatever is left.
In Episode 2 of our series "Husband, Come Home" on I Know a Guy, we are talking about the provider who never really comes home—and the deeper wound that may be driving him to find his worth through work.
Brother, a paycheck can put food on the table.
But it cannot sit at the table and listen to your wife.
She may not need more of what you can earn.
She may need more of you.
Throughout this month, when you make a donation of any amount to Bringing Kingdom, we'll send you a copy of The Father Eclipse as our thank-you.
My prayer is that it helps you walk even more confidently in your identity as the Father's beloved son.
Go to BringingKingdom.org/donate to make a gift and where it says "Write a comment" - put The Father Eclipse and we'll send you a copy. Be sure to also leave your mailing address.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 

Your wife seems angry.
She is frustrated, critical, or maybe she has simply shut down.
And you are thinking, “Nothing I do is ever good enough.”
But what if her anger is not the deepest issue?
What if underneath the frustration is a woman who has felt emotionally alone in her marriage for years?
In Episode 1 of our new series on I Know a Guy, Husband, Come Home, we are talking about the difference between answering your wife’s complaint and actually hearing her heart.
This is not about shaming husbands.
It is about becoming secure enough as beloved sons to stop defending ourselves, start listening, and ask one courageous question:
“Father, what is mine to own?”
It is not too late to come home.
Throughout this month, when you make a donation of any amount to Bringing Kingdom, we'll send you a copy of The Father Eclipse as our thank-you.
My prayer is that it helps you walk even more confidently in your identity as the Father's beloved son.
Go to BringingKingdom.org/donate to make a gift and where it says "Write a comment" - put The Father Eclipse and we'll send you a copy. Be sure to also leave your mailing address.

My friend Philip Thurman was diagnosed with prostate cancer.
The cost of surgery looked impossible. His insurance appeared useless, and he had no idea how any of it would work.
Then a Hindu friend in India opened his home. A highly experienced surgeon became available. And an insurance benefit Philip didn’t even know existed produced a check for $45,000.
But that isn’t the most remarkable part of Philip’s story.
The peace came before any of the provision.
Listen to “Peace Before the Outcome” on I Know a Guy—and please join me in praying for Philip as he prepares for surgery on September 22.

Have you ever noticed how often you tell yourself, "I just need to be better"?
A better husband. A better father. A better Christian.
But what if that little word is carrying a burden God never asked you to carry?
In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve Cummings explores the difference between healthy growth and striving to earn your worth. You'll discover how beloved sons pursue maturity—not because they're trying to become enough, but because they already are deeply loved.
Join us for this encouraging five-minute conversation that just might change the way you talk to yourself.
Throughout this month, when you make a donation of any amount to Bringing Kingdom, we'll send you a copy of The Father Eclipse as our thank-you.
My prayer is that it helps you walk even more confidently in your identity as the Father's beloved son.
Go to BringingKingdom.org/donate to make a gift and where it says "Write a comment" - put The Father Eclipse and we'll send you a copy. Be sure to also leave your mailing address.
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 

What does it really mean to be loyal to the Father?
In the final episode of our "Loyal to the Father" series on I Know a Guy, we're answering the question that has guided this entire series:
If Jesus carried my guilt - why am I still carrying someone else's?
We'll discover what Jesus meant when He called us to give up everything, why freedom begins when we lay down false guilt, and how beloved sons stop asking people to do what only the Father can do.
If this series has encouraged you, I'd love to continue the journey with you. Throughout this series, when you make a donation of any amount to Bringing Kingdom, we'll send you a copy of The Father Eclipse as our thank-you.
My prayer is that it helps you walk even more confidently in your identity as the Father's beloved son.
Go to BringingKingdom.org/donate to make a gift and where it says "Write a comment" - put The Father Eclipse and we'll send you a copy. Be sure to also leave your mailing address.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 

Why do unhealthy families, workplaces, and even churches always seem to need someone to blame?
In Episode 6 of "Loyal to the Father" on I Know a Guy, we're uncovering one of shame's oldest strategies: the search for a scapegoat. We'll look at a modern workplace story and then discover how the greatest example of this pattern is found in the final week of Jesus' life.
Most importantly, we'll see the difference between the guilt Jesus willingly carried for us - and the false guilt He never asks us to carry for someone else.
And throughout this series, if you make a donation of any amount to Bringing Kingdom, we'll send you a copy of The Father Eclipse as our thank-you.
My prayer is that it helps you discover the freedom of living from your identity as a beloved son.
Go to BringingKingdom.org/donate to make a gift and where it says "Write a comment" - put The Father Eclipse and we'll send you a copy. Be sure to also leave your mailing address.

What happens when someone says they want the relationship restored... but never acknowledges the wound that caused the separation?
In Episode 5 of "Loyal to the Father" on I Know a Guy, I'm sharing one of the most personal stories I've ever told. It's about my own relationship with my father and the painful difference between wanting discomfort to end and pursuing genuine reconciliation through truth and repentance.
If you've ever wrestled with a relationship where someone refused to own their part, this episode will help you understand why Jesus valued truth so deeply—and why healing always begins there.
Throughout this series, if you make a donation of any amount to Bringing Kingdom, we'll send you a copy of The Father Eclipse as my thank-you.
It's my story of discovering that our deepest identity is found, not in the approval of people, but in the love of our heavenly Father.
My prayer is that it helps you continue discovering the freedom of living as a beloved son.
Go to BringingKingdom.org/donate to make a gift and where it says "Write a comment" - put The Father Eclipse and we'll send you a copy. Be sure to also leave your mailing address.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.