I Know a Guy Podcast

David failed. He sinned. He made costly mistakes. Yet God trusted him with something rare—His own heart.  Why?
Because David was aware of his inner world. He talked to his soul.He asked questions instead of numbing pain. He invited God into what was actually happening inside him.
In Episode 2 of our Awareness series on I Know a Guy, we explore why emotional honesty—not perfection—is what marked David’s life, and what his story teaches men today about awareness, intimacy, and living from the heart.
If you’re realizing that you’ve spent years disconnected from your heart and want a safe, guided space to grow in awareness and live from your God-given identity, I’d be honored to walk with you through 1:1 identity coaching. This is slow, intentional work—and it changes everything.
Contact me at:steve.cummings@bringingkingdom.org or schedule an appointment at: https://bringingkingdom.org/talk
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Most men are good thinkers.But very few of us know what’s happening inside our hearts.
When emotions surface—anxiety, anger, sadness—we don’t slow down and listen.  We react. We numb. We perform. We isolate.
Scripture says everything we do flows from the heart… yet most men have never been taught how to notice what’s going on there.
In Episode 1 of this new Awareness series on I Know a Guy, we talk about why men struggle with emotional awareness, how unrecognized feelings shape our behavior, and why learning to listen to your heart is not weakness—but wisdom.
If this resonates and you find yourself wanting help slowing down, naming what’s going on inside you, and learning to live from your true identity as a beloved son, I offer 1:1 identity coaching for men.
You don’t have to figure this out alone. 
Contact me at:steve.cummings@bringingkingdom.org or schedule an appointment at: https://bringingkingdom.org/talk
 

Decisive action doesn’t have to come from urgency or fear.
Boaz shows us what it looks like when a man moves with clarity instead of pressure. He honors process, seeks accountability, and acts boldly without rushing the outcome. His identity is settled—so his decisions are steady.
In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we look at the moment Boaz goes to the city gate and how that scene reveals the difference between impulse and initiation. Men who live from identity don’t force outcomes—they move when the time is right.
If you find yourself stuck between hesitation and overreaction, this episode offers a different path—one rooted in beloved sonship and trust rather than control.
For men who want personal space to explore these themes more deeply, I offer 1:1 identity coaching. If you’d like to talk or learn more, you can contact me at: steve.cummings@bringingkingdom.org or schedule an appointment at: https://bringingkingdom.org/talk
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Most men were taught that strength means striving—pushing harder, moving faster, proving ourselves before someone questions our worth.
Boaz shows us a different way.
He is introduced in Scripture as “a man of standing,” not because of what he achieves, but because of who he is. His strength doesn’t create pressure; it creates safety. He notices, protects, and provides—without demanding anything in return.
In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we explore what it looks like for a man to be at rest with his strength and how living from our identity as beloved sons frees us from striving, performing, and chasing validation.
If you’re a man who feels successful on the outside but restless or disconnected on the inside, this conversation may resonate deeply. And if you’re sensing an invitation to slow down and do deeper identity work, I offer 1:1 identity coaching for men who want to live and lead from who they truly are.
You can reach me at steve.cummings@bringingkingdom.org

What if the Prayer of Jabez was never about getting more from God — but learning how to ask Him like a son?
In the middle of a long genealogy, Scripture pauses for one man and one prayer. Jabez asks boldly: for blessing, for expansion, for God’s presence, and for freedom from the pain that shaped his past. And God answers — without correction, hesitation, or warning.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore how the Prayer of Jabez reveals the heart of a Father who isn’t threatened by our desire, annoyed by our asking, or distant from our growth. This isn’t a formula for success — it’s an invitation into beloved sonship.
Here’s what I’ve learned after walking with men for years:
Most men don’t need more discipline.
They don’t need another strategy.
They don’t need to try harder.
They need clarity about who they are — and whose they are.
Many of us live as servants in our relationship with God, even though we’ve been invited to live as sons. We believe God can bless us, but we’re not sure He delights in us. We want His presence, but we’re still driven by fear, performance, or unresolved pain.
That’s where identity coaching comes in.
1:1 identity coaching is a slow, intentional space where we help men:
Learn to hear the Father’s voice with confidence
Identify the beliefs that are quietly shaping their decisions
Break cycles of striving, shrinking, or self-protection
Live from beloved sonship instead of earning approval
This isn’t therapy.  It isn’t hype.  And it isn’t behavior modification.
It’s about learning how to ask God boldly — like Jabez — because you trust the heart of the Father.
If this message stirred something in you…If you sense God inviting you into deeper clarity, healing, or expansion… I’d love to talk with you. You can reach me directly at:steve.cummings@bringingkingdom.org or schedule an appointment at: https://bringingkingdom.org/talk
No pressure.  Just a conversation.
Sometimes the most courageous prayer isn’t asking God to fix something — it’s trusting Him enough to ask for more.
"I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 

In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve Cummings shares how Jamie Winship and Identity Exchange reshaped his understanding of identity, truth, and freedom.
If you’re tired of striving and ready to live from who God says you are, this conversation is for you.
Get a copy of Jamie Winship's book Steve mentioned on today's podcast called, "Living Fearless" 
More about Steve Cummings:
Experience: 42 years of mentoring and pastoral counseling with men’s groups in Southern California and now Georgia.
Education: Masters of Divinity from Denver Seminary; certified by the Georgia Board of Examiners as a Pastoral Counselor; Certified Professional Coach; Identity Exchange Catalyst.
Are you struggling knowing your true identity?  I know a guy who can help.  Book some time with Steve and walk this journey with him.  Trained by Identity Exchange and Jamie Winship as an Identity Catalyst, Steve is equipped to help you discover your identity and live from it fearlessly.
Bringing Kingdom helps men rediscover who they are as beloved sons of God and live from that truth - one conversation, one connection, one community at a time.. Visit us at BringingKingdom.org and let's start a conversation.
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 

In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve Cummings explores how Pete Scazzero’s work revealed the deep connection between emotional health and spiritual formation.
If you’ve ever felt torn between faith and feelings, this conversation brings clarity and hope.
Get a copy of Pete Scazzero's book, "Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: It's Impossible to Be Spiritually Mature, While Remaining Emotionally Immature," that Steve mentioned on today's podcast.
More about Steve Cummings:
Experience: 42 years of mentoring and pastoral counseling with men’s groups in Southern California and now Georgia.
Education: Masters of Divinity from Denver Seminary; certified by the Georgia Board of Examiners as a Pastoral Counselor; Certified Professional Coach; Identity Exchange Catalyst.
Are you struggling knowing your true identity?  I know a guy who can help.  Book some time with Steve and walk this journey with him.  Trained by Identity Exchange and Jamie Winship as an Identity Catalyst, Steve is equipped to help you discover your identity and live from it fearlessly.
Bringing Kingdom helps men rediscover who they are as beloved sons of God and live from that truth - one conversation, one connection, one community at a time.. Visit us at BringingKingdom.org and let's start a conversation.

In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve Cummings shares how Michael Thompson and The Heart of a Warrior awakened a deeper awareness of sonship, healing, and the importance of a man’s heart.
If you’ve ever felt spiritually committed but emotionally disconnected—this episode is for you.
For a free copy of Michael Thompson's book, "Heart of a Warrior: Before You Can Become the Warrior You Must Become the Beloved Son" - send an email to Steve with your name and address: steve.cummings@bringingkingdom.org.
More about Steve Cummings:
Experience: 42 years of mentoring and pastoral counseling with men’s groups in Southern California and now Georgia.
Education: Masters of Divinity from Denver Seminary; certified by the Georgia Board of Examiners as a Pastoral Counselor; Certified Professional Coach; Identity Exchange Catalyst.
Are you struggling knowing your true identity?  I know a guy who can help.  Book some time with Steve and walk this journey with him.  Trained by Identity Exchange and Jamie Winship as an Identity Catalyst, Steve is equipped to help you discover your identity and live from it fearlessly.
Bringing Kingdom helps men rediscover who they are as beloved sons of God and live from that truth - one conversation, one connection, one community at a time.. Visit us at BringingKingdom.org and let's start a conversation.
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 

In this episode of I Know a Guy, host Steve Cummings reflects on how John Eldredge and Wild at Heart reshaped his understanding of God—not as distant, but deeply personal.
If your faith has felt driven by duty more than delight, this conversation may open the door to experiencing God as a present and loving Father.
 
Resources by best-selling author John Eldridge mentioned on today's podcast:
1. "Fathered by God: Learning What Your Dad Could Never Teach You"
2. "Resilient: Restoring Your Weary Soul in These Turbulent Times"
3. "Experience Jesus Really: Finding Refuge, Strength, and Wonder Through Everyday Encounters with God."
4. One-Minute Pause App - a MUST have! Download it at the App Store or go to: https://wildatheart.org/pause
More about Steve Cummings:
Experience: 42 years of mentoring and pastoral counseling with men’s groups in Southern California and now Georgia.
Education: Masters of Divinity from Denver Seminary; certified by the Georgia Board of Examiners as a Pastoral Counselor; Certified Professional Coach; Identity Exchange Catalyst.
Are you struggling knowing your true identity?  I know a guy who can help.  Book some time with Steve and walk this journey with him.  Trained by Identity Exchange and Jamie Winship as an Identity Catalyst, Steve is equipped to help you discover your identity and live from it fearlessly.
Bringing Kingdom helps men rediscover who they are as beloved sons of God and live from that truth - one conversation, one connection, one community at a time.. Visit us at BringingKingdom.org and let's start a conversation.

Men don’t grow spiritually by trying harder—they grow by being fathered.
In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, host Steve Cummings introduces a powerful question: Who is your Spiritual Sherpa?
Drawing from Scripture and personal experience, Steve explores why every man needs someone who’s gone before him—someone who helps move faith from the head to the heart and anchors identity in being a beloved son.
This episode launches a five-day series that just might change how you view mentorship, discipleship, and your walk with God.
 
More about Steve Cummings:
Experience: 42 years of mentoring and pastoral counseling with men’s groups in Southern California and now Georgia.
Education: Masters of Divinity from Denver Seminary; certified by the Georgia Board of Examiners as a Pastoral Counselor; Certified Professional Coach; Identity Exchange Catalyst.
Are you struggling knowing your true identity?  I know a guy who can help.  Book some time with Steve and walk this journey with him.  Trained by Identity Exchange and Jamie Winship as an Identity Catalyst, Steve is equipped to help you discover your identity and live from it fearlessly.
Bringing Kingdom helps men rediscover who they are as beloved sons of God and live from that truth - one conversation, one connection, one community at a time.. Visit us at BringingKingdom.org and let's start a conversation.
 
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.