I Know a Guy Podcast

Most men think being “nice” equals being loving.  But what if it’s actually fear—fear of conflict, fear of rejection, fear of not being liked?
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we expose the hidden trap of people pleasing—and how trying to keep everyone happy is quietly costing you your identity, your peace, and your relationships.
And we connect it to something bigger.
My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again" is now available on Amazon —and for the first 72 hours, June 1 through June 3, I’m donating all proceeds to Fathers in the Field, a national ministry mentoring boys without fathers to help them avoid their own father eclipse.
So grab a copy for yourself—and maybe one for another man—and if it impacts you, leaving a quick review on Amazon would mean more than you know.  Be blessed.
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

You weren’t born disconnected.
You learned it.
And what started as protection… became your way of life.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we unpack why men shut down emotionally…how it impacts every relationship in your life…and how to begin reconnecting to the part of you that’s been buried for years.
Plus—my new book "The Father Eclipse" is now available on Amazon. And for the next 72 hours, every dollar from book sales is being donated to Fathers in the Field—a ministry mentoring boys without fathers to help them avoid a father eclipse.
Thank you for following this podcast, rating it and adding your comment about how it's impacted you.  By doing that you are helping scatter seed.  Share it with another guy  and share as the Spirit leads.  Let's help more men live from their true identity - together!
Also - if you need to process?  Schedule time with Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org/booking
 

There’s a Greek word used to describe Jesus when He sees people—and it doesn’t mean what you think it means.
σπλαγχνίζομαι. (splagchnizomai)
It means He felt compassion in His gut.
Deep. visceral. unavoidable.
And here’s the problem—
Most men have spent their entire lives avoiding that exact place.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we unpack what this word really means… how Jesus actually experienced people… and why disconnection might be the thing holding you back from becoming who you were created to be.
Can I ask a favor fellow beloved son? 
Would you follow, rate, comment and share this podcast with another guy as the Spirit leads?  Let's help more men live from their true identity - together!
Schedule time with Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org/booking
Shout out to my good friend, Pastor Tim Robertson, from New Life Church in West Linn, OR for suggesting this subject.
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 

Fear is not your identity.
But if you don’t understand it… it will quietly shape your entire life.
This episode of I Know a Guy will help you discern the difference between healthy fear and destructive fear—and how to stop letting it control you.
Because you weren’t created to live guarded, reactive, and small.
You were created to live free.
Fear didn’t just show up in your life—it was formed.
In your home.In your story.In moments you didn’t have the strength to process as a boy.
And if you’ve ever wondered why you overthink, control, withdraw, or react…
there’s a reason.
This episode of I Know a Guy helps you start finding it.
Because until you understand where fear came from…
you’ll keep letting it lead.
Can I ask a favor fellow beloved son? 
Would you follow, rate, comment and share this podcast with another guy as the Spirit leads?  Let's help more men live from their true identity - together!
Schedule time with Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org/booking
Get a copy of "The Father Eclipse" now available on Amazon.

Fear didn’t just show up in your life—it was formed.
In your home.In your story.In moments you didn’t have the strength to process as a boy.
And if you’ve ever wondered why you overthink, control, withdraw, or react…
there’s a reason.
This episode of I Know a Guy helps you start finding it.
Because until you understand where fear came from…
you’ll keep letting it lead.
 
Here is the Amazon link Steve mentioned today to his new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity —and How to See God Clearly Again." 
 
Schedule time with Steve at: www.bringingkingdom.org/booking
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 

What do you actually say when someone you love is hurting?
Most men freeze… fix… or shut it down.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we break down simple, practical ways to show empathy—without feeling awkward, helpless, or out of control.
If you’ve ever thought, “I just don’t know what to say…”
This episode of I Know a Guy will give you the words—and the confidence—to stay present.
Because connection isn’t about having the answer.
It’s about being there.
Do me a favor?  Would you follow, rate, comment and share this podcast with another guy as the Spirit leads?  Let's help more men live from their true identity - together!

Most men think they’re helping…
But what if the way you respond to your wife’s emotions is actually pushing her further away?
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we break down the critical difference between sympathy and empathy—and why men default to fixing, minimizing, and controlling when emotions rise.
If you’ve ever said, “Just don’t worry about it”… or “You’ll be fine”…
This episode is for you.
Because connection isn’t built through solutions.
It’s built through presence.
Mentioned on this episode: Brené Brown on Empathy
Do me a favor?  Would you follow, rate, comment and share this podcast with another guy as the Spirit leads?  Let's help more men live from their true identity - together!
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

If the wide path leads to destruction, why does it feel so normal?
Why do so many men live stressed, disconnected, and exhausted—and think that’s just life?
What if the issue isn’t your schedule, but your identity?  And what if the patterns you’ve been living out for decades were never actually leading you where you think?
This episode of I Know a Guy exposes why the wide path feels right—
And why that should concern you.
I wrote The Father Eclipse for this exact reason. To help men see clearly what’s been shaping them and step into the truth of who they are as beloved sons.
It’s not a long book.
It’s written like a one-on-one conversation—something you can read in one or two sittings.
It’s available now on Amazon.  If you pick one up, thank you. And if you leave a review, that would mean more than you know.
 
"I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 

Most men believe they’re following Jesus because they go to church.
But what if Jesus never said that was the standard? What if the real question isn’t what you believe—but the path you’re actually walking?
There are two roads.
One is easy, comfortable, and crowded.
The other is narrow, intentional, and requires everything.
And here’s the tension—
You don’t choose it once.
You choose it every day.
This episode of I Know a Guy will challenge the way you think about faith, identity, and what it actually means to follow Jesus.
Do me a favor?  Would you follow, rate, comment and share this podcast with another guy as the Spirit leads?  Let's help more men live from their true identity - together!

At some point, every man hits a wall. 
A blow-up.A shutdown.A disconnect.Or just the realization—something’s off.
That’s not random.
That’s what happens when you ignore the why beneath your what.
You can only outrun it for so long.
Eventually… it catches up.
This episode of I Know a Guy will show you how to slow down, get honest, and start uncovering what’s really driving your life—so you don’t have to learn the hard way.
And if this topic resonates with you, my brand-new book, The Father Eclipse is now available on Amazon.
It’s all about how our earthly fathers shaped our identity—and how to see God clearly again.