I Know a Guy Podcast

At some point, every man hits a wall. 
A blow-up.A shutdown.A disconnect.Or just the realization—something’s off.
That’s not random.
That’s what happens when you ignore the why beneath your what.
You can only outrun it for so long.
Eventually… it catches up.
This episode of I Know a Guy will show you how to slow down, get honest, and start uncovering what’s really driving your life—so you don’t have to learn the hard way.
And if this topic resonates with you, my brand-new book, The Father Eclipse is now available on Amazon.
It’s all about how our earthly fathers shaped our identity—and how to see God clearly again. 
 

You didn’t randomly become the man you are. Your reactions, your habits, your patterns. They were learned.
Formed in your family. Shaped between ages 0–12. And here’s the hard truth:
What helped you survive then - might be hurting you now.
Performance. Withdrawal. Control. Avoidance.
It all made sense. But is it still serving you?
This episode of I Know a Guy will help you connect your past to your present—so you can finally understand the why beneath your what.
Steve's new book The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again is now available on Amazon in both paperback and Kindle formats. 
If you have another guy who needs this message, grab a second copy and help scatter more seed. 
ALL proceeds from this book launch through June 3rd go to Fathers in the Field - a national ministry to rekindle and establish the spirit of boys who have been abandoned by their fathers; mentoring them one-on-one in life skills through outdoor activities, and by sharing a Christian understanding of our Heavenly Father’s love and sacrifice for His children.
Do me a favor?  Would you follow, rate, comment and share this podcast with another guy as the Spirit leads?  Let's help more men live from their true identity - together!
"I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

You’re not fine.  You’re just moving too fast to deal with what’s really going on inside of you.
Every reaction… every frustration… every shutdown…
There’s a why beneath it.
But when you ignore it… it doesn’t go away.  It leaks.
Into your marriage.Your parenting.Your friendships.Your work.
And if you keep ignoring the signals…
The engine will blow.
This episode of I Know a Guy will wake you up to what you’ve been avoiding—and why it matters more than you think.
I want to point you to something that can help you keep going. I wrote The Father Eclipse for this exact reason. To help men see clearly what’s been shaping them and step into the truth of who they are as beloved sons.
It’s not a long book.
It’s written like a one-on-one conversation—something you can read in one or two sittings.
It’s available now on Amazon.  If you pick one up, thank you. And if you leave a review, that would mean more than you know.

Joshua and Caleb believed the promise.  But belief didn’t fast-forward the timeline.
Forty years!  Forty years of waiting while others wandered in fear.
Today's episode of I Know a Guy concludes our 2-part series on Joshua and Caleb and explores how identity sustains a man through delay — and why sonship is the only thing strong enough to carry you through long seasons of formation.
Steve's new book The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again is now available on Amazon in both paperback and Kindle formats. 
If you have another guy who needs this message, grab a second copy and help scatter more seed. 
ALL proceeds from this book launch through June 3rd go to Fathers in the Field - a national ministry to rekindle and establish the spirit of boys who have been abandoned by their fathers; mentoring them one-on-one in life skills through outdoor activities, and by sharing a Christian understanding of our Heavenly Father’s love and sacrifice for His children.
 
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 

Twelve men walked into the same promise.
Ten saw giants and shrank.Two saw giants and stood tall.
What was the difference?
Identity.
Today and tomorrow on I Know a Guy, we’re diving into the story of Joshua and Caleb — and why your view of yourself determines whether you step into promise or wander in fear.
If you’ve been standing on the edge of something — unsure, hesitant, second-guessing — this episode is for you.
Also - after months of writing, praying, wrestling, and honestly processing my own story, my new book The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again is now available on Amazon in both paperback and Kindle formats.
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Today on I Know a Guy, we’re talking about something most men quietly struggle with.
The addiction to be affirmed, or recognized.
The need to be noticed, validated and  affirmed.
But there is freedom from that cycle.
When a man understands his identity as a beloved son, he stops living for applause and begins living from something much deeper.
If you’ve ever felt invisible - or if your sense of worth rises and falls with what people think about you - this episode will speak directly to your heart.
After months of writing, praying, wrestling, and honestly processing my own story, my new book The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again is now available on Amazon in both paperback and Kindle formats.
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 

Today on the I Know a Guy, we’re talking about something almost no man admits.
The addiction to recognition.
The need to be seen.The need to be validated.The need to be noticed.
And what happens inside a man when the applause disappears.
In the next episode we’ll talk about how men break free from living for recognition and begin living from the unshakable identity of a beloved son.
If you’ve ever felt invisible - or if your sense of worth rises and falls with what people think of you.  You won’t want to miss this one!
 

Every man has a story that shaped him.  A past that influenced
How he sees himself
How he shows up
How he protects his heart.
But at some point, every man faces a choice:
Will I stay defined by my story?
or learn how to move forward?
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about what it looks like to own your story without letting it own you.
Because your past may have shaped you…
but it was never meant to define you.
And sometimes - moving forward starts with finally talking about it.
Text "Hey Steve" to 714-742-9625 and lets get the conversation started.
The Amazon link Steve mentioned today to his new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity —and How to See God Clearly Again." - isn't set up yet.  It should be ready this week.  Keep checking back!
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Most men think they’ve left home, but they haven’t.They’ve just changed addresses.
And it shows up in the same place every time— between their mom and their wife.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we’re going straight into the tension most men avoid.
What does it actually mean to honor your mom without losing yourself?
And how do you truly choose your wife so she never feels like she’s competing?
If you’ve ever felt stuck in the middle…this conversation will hit closer than you think.
 

Most men don’t realize this
The way you respond to pressure.
The way you handle relationships.
Even the way you see yourself . . .
. . . may not actually be “who you are.” It may be something you learned. Something formed a long time ago.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we’re talking about the hidden scripts many men are living from — without even knowing it.
Because if you’ve ever felt stuck - like you keep showing up the same way no matter what you try - there may be a reason.
And once you see it - EVERYTHING can start to change.