I Know a Guy Podcast

You cannot stay neutral with anxiety.
If you don’t intentionally anchor yourself, you will drift — either into panic or into numbness.
Some men explode.
Some men disappear
Both are fear in disguise.
In Episode 2 of our anxiety series, we talk about why neutrality is a myth and how prayer becomes warfare — not passive, not weak — but a decisive move away from fear’s rule.
If you’re tired of riding emotional waves…If you’re exhausted from either spiraling or shutting down…
It may be time to anchor.
Text “Hey Steve” to 714-742-9625Let’s talk.
You don’t have to keep getting tossed.
 

Men don’t usually say, “I’m anxious.”
We say we’re tired.Frustrated.Overwhelmed.Short-tempered.
But anxiety isn’t just in your head — and it’s not just a spiritual failure either.
You are a body and a soul.
And when anxiety hits, it touches both.
In this first episode of our 6-part series on I Know a Guy, we’re unpacking why men handle anxiety wrong — and how the gospel brings clarity instead of shame.
If you’ve been carrying more than you admit…This episode is for you.
And if you realize you’ve been trying to be God in your own life — holding everything together, controlling outcomes, never asking for help —
Maybe it’s time to sit with someone who can help you untangle it.
Text “Hey Steve” to 714-742-9625Let’s set up a time.
You don’t have to carry it alone.
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

You cannot heal in isolation.
Shame thrives in secrecy — but it loses power when you risk honesty with safe men.
In this final episode of this 3-part series "What Are You REALLY Feeling?" we talk about what safe brotherhood actually looks like and why healing requires vulnerability, not performance.
If you’re ready to stop fighting alone and build real connection — text “Hey Steve” to 714-742-9625.
Strong alone is still alone.
But you don’t have to stay that way.
About Steve Cummings:
Experience: 42 years of mentoring and pastoral counseling with men’s groups in Southern California and now Georgia.
Education: Masters of Divinity from Denver Seminary; certified by the Georgia Board of Examiners as a Pastoral Counselor; Certified Professional Coach; Identity Exchange Catalyst.

Men don’t chase pleasure.
We chase relief.
And if you’ve ever wondered why you keep reaching for drinking, porn, isolation, or overworking — it may not be addiction to pleasure.
It may be unprocessed shame.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about why men numb instead of connect — and how real healing begins when you risk being honest with safe men.
If you’re tired of white-knuckling behavior change and ready to deal with what’s underneath it, text “Hey Steve” to 714-742-9625.
You don’t need more shame.You need safe connection.
About Steve Cummings:
Experience: 42 years of mentoring and pastoral counseling with men’s groups in Southern California and now Georgia.
Education: Masters of Divinity from Denver Seminary; certified by the Georgia Board of Examiners as a Pastoral Counselor; Certified Professional Coach; Identity Exchange Catalyst.
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

You don’t have an anger problem.
You have a shame problem.
Most men were never taught how to name insecurity, fear, inadequacy, or helplessness — so we translate everything into anger.
But anger is just the surface.
Underneath it is a man who wants relief.
And if you don’t process those feelings, you’ll medicate them.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we begin peeling back the layers and exposing the real enemy: shame.
If you’ve ever said, “I don’t even know what I’m feeling,” this one’s for you.
And if you’re ready to learn how to name and process what’s under the anger — not alone, but with a guide — text “Hey Steve” to 714-742-9625.
You don’t have to keep converting pain into anger.
There’s another way.
About Steve Cummings:
Experience: 42 years of mentoring and pastoral counseling with men’s groups in Southern California and now Georgia.
Education: Masters of Divinity from Denver Seminary; certified by the Georgia Board of Examiners as a Pastoral Counselor; Certified Professional Coach; Identity Exchange Catalyst.
 

When a man releases his expectations to God, something surprising happens.
God doesn't leave him empty.
He begins planting new desires.
Desires for depth.
Integrity.
Peace.
Purpose.
Psalm 37:4 isn't about God granting our wish list.
It's about the Father transforming our hearts so that what we desire becomes aligned with who we really are.
And when that happens, life stops feeling like pressure.
It begins to feel like freedom.
If this resonated with you, you may be discovering something many men eventually face — the realization that striving for the life you imagined hasn’t brought the peace you hoped it would.
You don’t have to navigate that alone.
I work one-on-one with men to help them rediscover identity as beloved sons, untangle expectations from identity, and walk with the Father in a new way.
If you'd like to explore 1:1 identity coaching, email me directly:
steve.cummings@bringingkingdom.org or text "Hey Steve" to 714-742-9625.
Because the freedom you’re looking for might begin the moment you stop forcing the life you planned and start trusting the Father who knows you best.
Become a partner of I Know a Guy here. Or Venmo @Bringing-Kingdom.
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 

Every man has a vision of the life he thought he would live.
Some of those dreams were good.
Some were shaped by fear, comparison, or the need to prove something.
But somewhere along the way, many of us attach our identity to whether those expectations come true.
When they don't, we feel disappointment, frustration, and sometimes quiet resentment toward God.
Today on I Know a Guy, we look at how Psalm 37:4 invites us into a completely different way of living — not building our identity on outcomes, but delighting in the Father first.
And when that happens, something surprising begins to unfold.
Your identity loosens its grip on performance.
And your heart finally becomes free.

Some men lead with strength.
Others lead with presence.
Highly sensitive men often carry an incredible ability to understand people’s hearts — but many spend years thinking something is wrong with them.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about how emotional sensitivity can actually become a powerful strength when it’s rooted in identity.
Because when a man knows he is a beloved son of the Father…
…his sensitivity stops being overwhelming.
And it starts becoming influence.
And if this conversation resonates with you…
If you’ve spent years feeling different or misunderstood…
I work with men one-on-one helping them discover their identity and how God wired them.
Text “Hey Steve” to 714-742-9625 and we’ll set up a time to talk.
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Some men struggle to express emotions.
But other men feel everything.
They notice tension quickly.They feel other people’s pain deeply.They process life with intense emotional awareness.
Psychologists call this being a Highly Sensitive Person, and about 20–30% of people are wired this way.
But when you’re a man, that sensitivity can feel like a flaw in a world that celebrates toughness.
The truth is…
Your sensitivity may actually be one of your greatest strengths.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we’ll talk about how God uses highly sensitive men in powerful ways — and why your emotional depth might be exactly how the Father designed you to reflect His heart.
And if you’re a man who has always felt different… overwhelmed… or misunderstood…
I know a guy who would love to talk with you.
I do 1:1 identity coaching with men who want to understand who they are and how God wired them.
Just text “Hey Steve” to 714-742-9625, and we’ll set up a time to talk.

When pressure rises, most men do what cows do — they run with the storm.They avoid. They numb. They delay hard conversations. They wait for it to pass.
But buffalo do something different. They lower their heads and charge straight into it — because instinctively they know the fastest way out is through.
In today's episode of I Know a Guy, we’re talking about storms — marriage storms, financial storms, identity storms — and why beloved sons don’t hide from them. They face them with their Father.
And if you’re tired of running and ready to walk through your storm with strength and clarity, this episode is for you!
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.