I Know a Guy Podcast

Addiction isn’t always rebellion.
Sometimes it’s anesthesia.
Men medicate what they were never allowed to grieve.
But willpower doesn’t break cycles.Honesty does.
Today on I Know a Guy, we talk about leakage, shame, and how freedom begins in the light.
And if you’re ready to stop managing what can be healed —
Text “Hey Steve” to 714-742-9625.  I've been there.  I know a guy.Let’s talk about 1:1 identity coaching.
You don’t need more control.You need safe connection.

Most men don’t think they have trauma.
They think they have stress.
They think they have personality quirks.
They think they’re just wired that way.
But what if some of your strongest reactions aren’t personality — they’re protection?
Today on I Know a Guy we talk about denial — the quiet survival response that keeps men functional but not free.
And if something in you knows there’s more under the surface…
Text “Hey Steve” to 714-742-9625.  Let’s set up a time to talk about 1:1 identity coaching.
Denial helped you survive.  But honesty will help you heal.
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

There’s a story in the Gospels about a wealthy, disciplined, morally upright young man who asks Jesus what he must do to inherit eternal life. He kept the commandments. He had influence. He had success.
And yet he walked away sad.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we unpack why wealth can quietly become our identity — and how financial success can train us to live independent of God.
This is a conversation about idols, masculinity, performance, and the invitation to sonship.
If you’re ready to ask what your success might be protecting you from… this one is for you.
And if this hits something deep in you — if you’re realizing your identity has been tied to production or income — text “Hey Steve” to 714-742-9625 and let’s begin a conversation about rediscovering who you are apart from what you earn.

Is wealth the goal… or is freedom the goal?
In Episode 2 of this series on I Know a Guy on "Money, Identity & the Quiet Idol," we confront the subtle theology of the American Dream — max the 401K, retire comfortably, and finally relax.
But what if you’re chasing financial peace instead of relational peace with your Father?
We unpack Jesus’ story of the rich fool, Paul’s secret of contentment, and the deep question every man must face:
If the money never increases… am I still secure?
If you’ve tied your identity to your net worth — this episode will challenge and steady you.
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Why do some men work incredibly hard and see financial fruit… while others grind and nothing seems to move?
Is financial blessing proof that God is pleased?Is financial struggle proof that He isn’t?
In this episode of "I Know a Guy," we expose the subtle lie that money equals identity — whether it’s dressed up as prosperity gospel or the American Dream.
You’ll learn the difference between working from sonship… and working for approval.
And if money has become your measuring stick — this conversation might set you free.
Contact me at:steve.cummings@bringingkingdom.org or schedule an appointment at: https://bringingkingdom.org/talk
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Daniel didn’t end up in the lions’ den because he failed. He ended up there because he stayed consistent.
On this episode of I Know a Guy we see how Daniel 6 tells us he prayed “as he had done before.”
No panic. No scrambling. Just steady faithfulness.
The greatest threat to men isn’t persecution — it’s drift. Drift into compromise. Drift into performance. Drift into reacting instead of remaining rooted.
The lions didn’t create Daniel’s identity. They revealed it.
If you’re tired of striving and want to become the kind of man who remains steady over time — not just strong in moments — identity coaching is about building that rootedness deep enough that pressure doesn’t shake you.
Text "Hi Steve" to 714-742-9625 and lets get the conversation rolling.
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

There is a moment in a man's life that we all eventually face — when obedience costs something.
Today on I Know a Guy we see what happened to Daniel when he faced this moment.
The music plays. Everyone bows. Three men remain standing.
And what they say changes everything:“Our God is able to deliver us… but even if He does not…”
That’s identity.
Not obedience based on outcomes. Not faith built on guarantees. But trust rooted in relationship.
The fire didn’t destroy them — it revealed them. And God didn’t keep them from the fire. He joined them in it.
If you’re in a season where standing feels costly, and you want to live from sonship instead of fear or approval, that’s exactly what identity coaching is about — untangling performance from obedience so you can stand steady no matter what burns around you.

Before Daniel ever faced a furnace or a lions’ den, he faced something much quieter — a decision.
Today on I Know a Guy we start a 3-part series on Daniel. 
Daniel 1 isn’t about food. It’s about formation. When everything familiar was stripped away — his home, his culture, even his name — Daniel resolved who he was before the pressure increased.
Most men don’t lose their identity in dramatic moments. We lose it slowly through what we consume, tolerate, and normalize.
If you want to become the kind of man who stands firm when pressure comes, you have to settle who you are before it does.
And if you feel like you’ve been drifting instead of resolving, that’s exactly the work we do in identity coaching — clarifying who you are as a beloved son before the next test ever shows up.
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

What do you do when you strongly disagree with someone—but still want to love them well?
Most men think they have two options: stay quiet or prove their point. But what if both miss the mark?
In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about how real strength isn’t found in winning arguments—it’s found in knowing who you are.
When your identity is secure, you don’t need to be right. You’re free to ask better questions, listen deeply, and build relationships that actually matter.
This one might change how you show up in every conversation.
If you have been blessed by today's podcast and the Holy Spirit moves on your heart, would you share it with another guy and encourage him?
I Know a Guy is the podcast ministry of BringingKingdom an IRS approved 501(c)3 and governed by a Board of Directors. EIN: 87-1929941.

What happens when everything goes quiet?  No phone.  No talking.No distractions.
I just spent 48 hours in silence at a monastery… and what surfaced surprised me.
I realized I was still carrying something I thought I had surrendered—the belief that it all depends on me.
My success. My provision. Even the fruit of this ministry.
And it was stealing my peace.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, I’m sharing what God showed me in the stillness… and why “Be still and know that I am God” might be the most important invitation for you this Holy Week.
If you’ve been striving - carrying pressure - or trying to control outcomes— this one’s for you.
If you have been blessed by today's podcast and the Holy Spirit moves on your heart, would you share it with another guy and encourage him?
I Know a Guy is the podcast ministry of BringingKingdom an IRS approved 501(c)3 and governed by a Board of Directors. EIN: 87-1929941.
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.