I Know a Guy Podcast

Why do we wait until life explodes before we change?
Why do we tolerate slow drift in our marriage, our health, our faith — until something crashes hard enough to wake us up?
In Luke 15, the prodigal son didn’t “come to his senses” until he was starving in a pigpen. But what if he didn’t have to wait for famine? What if we don’t either?
This episode of I Know a Guy is an honest conversation about why men delay change — and how identity as a beloved son allows us to respond to conviction before consequences.
If something is quietly drifting in your life, this one is for you.
And if you know you’re ready to address patterns before they become collapse, I offer 1:1 identity coaching conversations. You can reach me directly at steve.cummings@bringingkingdom.org.
Sometimes change doesn’t need a crash — it just needs courage.

When “honor your father and mother” becomes emotional leverage, what do you do?
In this episode we talk about:• Honor vs. control• Boundaries in honor-shame cultures• Jesus’ reordering of family loyalty• And how to become a man without becoming rebellious
If you’ve ever felt like obedience to God might cost you family approval—this episode will steady your heart.
If today's episode resonates with you and you want help learning how to live from your identity instead of for it, I offer 1-on-1 identity coaching for men.
Contact me at:steve.cummings@bringingkingdom.org or schedule an appointment at: https://bringingkingdom.org/talk
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

“Honor your father and mother.”
For some men, that verse feels holy.For others, it feels heavy.
What if the Hebrew word for honor doesn’t mean lifelong obedience—but giving proper weight?
In this episode, we unpack:• The Hebrew meaning of kā·vêd• Why honor is about posture, not control• How this commandment has been misused• And how to honor without losing your identity
If you’ve ever felt trapped between family expectations and God’s calling—this one is for you.

Pressure isn’t just about circumstances — it’s about identity.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about the quiet drift that moves men from sonship into striving… and how to become immovable again.
If you’ve been exhausted from trying to hold your place, this conversation will steady you.
And if you’d like help becoming anchored and unwavering in your identity, I offer 1:1 identity coaching for men ready to stop drifting..
Contact me at:steve.cummings@bringingkingdom.org or schedule an appointment at: https://bringingkingdom.org/talk
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Most men think unwavering means trying harder.
It doesn’t.
It means being seated.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we unpack what “steadfast” and “immovable” really mean — and why pressure isn’t trying to break you… it’s trying to relocate you.
If you’ve been feeling shaken in your identity, this conversation is for you.
And if you’d like help learning how to live seated — not striving — I offer 1:1 identity coaching for men who want to become grounded and unmovable in who they are.
You can reach me at:steve.cummings@bringingkingdom.org

Paul didn’t lose his identity when the storm hit—he lived from it.
In Acts 27, chained and exhausted, Paul becomes the calmest man on the ship. Not because the storm stopped—but because he knew who he belonged to. The ship went down. The promise didn’t.
This episode of I Know a Guy explores what it looks like to live from your identity as a beloved son when everything feels like it’s breaking apart—and how faith doesn’t just survive storms… it feeds others and leads them safely to shore.
If you’re in a season where structure is shaking but calling remains, this one’s for you.
If today's episode resonates with you and you want help learning how to live from your identity instead of for it, I offer 1-on-1 identity coaching for men.
Contact me at:steve.cummings@bringingkingdom.org or schedule an appointment at: https://bringingkingdom.org/talk
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Many men believe holiness is something they must achieve to earn God’s approval.
But that belief quietly fuels striving, exhaustion, and shame.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we flip the script.
Holiness doesn’t come from trying harder—it flows from being loved.
When identity is rooted in beloved sonship, healing begins… and holiness grows naturally.
If you’ve been living from performance instead of peace, this conversation is for you.

What if your identity didn’t start with performance… but with belonging?
Before you ever took your first breath, you were already in the Father’s heart.
Not accidental. Not tolerated. Not on probation.
Wanted. Chosen. Loved.
In today’s I Know a Guy episode, we talk about the Father’s heart
Why adoption is not second-best.
Why God’s pleasure isn’t earned, and
How a secure attachment to a loving Father reshapes identity, healing, and freedom.
If you’ve ever carried the lie that you have to prove you belong,this one is for you.
If today's episode resonates with you and you want help learning how to live from your identity instead of for it, I offer 1-on-1 identity coaching for men.
Contact me at:steve.cummings@bringingkingdom.org or schedule an appointment at: https://bringingkingdom.org/talk
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

What if the pressure you’re carrying isn’t actually yours to hold?
So many men are exhausted—not because they’re incapable—but because they’ve quietly believed they are the source. The provider. The fixer. The answer.
But Scripture tells us something radically freeing: before the pressure… the provision already existed.
In this episode of I Know a Guy we dismantle the lie that it all depends on you—and rediscover what it means to live as a son, not a struggler.
And if this hits close to home—if you’ve been carrying weight you were never meant to carry—I want to invite you into deeper identity work.
I offer 1:1 identity coaching for men who are ready to breathe again, live rooted instead of reactive, and lead from sonship instead of striving.
You can reach me directly at: steve.cummings@bringingkingdom.org.
You don’t have to keep carrying this alone.

The way you see God is often shaped by the father you had—or didn’t have.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore how father wounds quietly shape faith, identity, and trust… and why healing begins when we separate God from our past.
What if He’s not who you assumed?What if He’s the Father you never had?
If today's episode resonates with you and you want help learning how to live from your identity instead of for it, I offer 1-on-1 identity coaching for men.
Contact me at:steve.cummings@bringingkingdom.org or schedule an appointment at: https://bringingkingdom.org/talk
 "I Am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.