I Know a Guy Podcast

Many men know God loves them—but they don’t actually feel it. And in difficult seasons, that gap can grow even wider.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore why receiving God’s love can feel so difficult and how to begin experiencing it in a real, personal way—even when your heart feels distant or numb.
Get a copy of Steve’s new book, The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthy Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again on Amazon.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

When life gets hard, most men default to pushing through—working harder, carrying more, and trying to fix what feels out of control. But what if the answer isn’t found in striving… but in surrender?
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore what it means to stop performing in difficult seasons and instead allow the Father to meet us right in the middle of them. If you’ve been carrying weight alone or trying to muscle your way through life, this conversation will invite you into a different way—the way of a beloved son.
Steve’s new book, The Father Eclipse, is now available on Amazon

We men know how to work hard, push hard, achieve hard, and compete hard.
But for many of us the hardest thing we’ll ever do is believe we are loved apart from performance.
So we spend our lives trying to prove ourselves.
At work.In marriage.In leadership.Even spiritually.
In this powerful conclusion to the “Doing Hard Things” series, Steve talks about performance-driven living, father wounds, identity, and the exhausting burden so many men carry trying to earn approval, worth, and belonging.
Drawing deeply from the message of The Father Eclipse, this episode invites men to stop striving for identity… and begin living from their true identity as beloved sons of the Father.
Be sure to grab a copy on Amazon and share it with your men's pastor at church and the men in your group - and watch what the Father does!
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 

Most men want to be respected. But many of us were never taught how to repair relationships after we’ve caused pain.
So we defend ourselves.  Explain ourselves.  Withdraw and minimize.
Meanwhile the people we love most are often left carrying wounds we never intended to create.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve talks about humility, apologies, rebuilding trust, and the courage it takes to own the impact of our emotional absence, shutdown, anger, or performance-driven living.
He also shares personal reflections connected to his new book, The Father Eclipse, including the painful realization that many men can provide physically while unintentionally going to the sidelines emotionally with their wives and children.
Repair is hard.
But humility may become the doorway to healing.

We men can become really good at doing spiritual things.
Reading Scripture.Praying.Leading Bible studies.Going to church.Serving faithfully.
Meanwhile internally, we can still feel distant from God, emotionally shut down, exhausted, ashamed, or disconnected.
Why?
Because many of us learned how to perform spiritually before we learned how to be honest spiritually.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve talks about the difference between spiritual activity and intimacy with God — and why slowing down, becoming aware, and bringing our real hearts before the Father may be one of the hardest things men ever do.
Drawing from his own journey and themes from his new book, The Father Eclipse, Steve explores how father wounds and performance-driven living can distort the way we see God — and how beloved sons begin learning to live FROM love instead of FOR it.
Be sure to grab a copy on Amazon and share it with your men's pastor at church and the men in your group - and watch what the Father does!
The One-Minute Pause app Steve mentioned on today's podcast is a great tool for understanding your heart and relieving worry, anxiety and stress.  Check it out.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Most men know how to be around people.
Fewer men know how to truly be known.
We can build careers, lead teams, sit in church every Sunday, and even have guys around us regularly… while quietly living isolated lives.
Many of us learned how to perform strength instead of pursue connection.
So we hide behind work, humor, independence, busyness, or emotional shutdown — and wonder why we feel disconnected from our wives, kids, friends, and even God.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, Steve talks about the hard work of relationships, vulnerability, brotherhood, and emotional presence — and why isolation may be one of the greatest threats facing men today.
He also weaves in parts of his own story from The Father Eclipse, including how father wounds and performance-driven living can quietly shape the way we connect — or disconnect — from the people we love most.  Grab a copy today on Amazon and share it with the men in your community.
Are you looking for Fitness, Faith and Fellowship with a group of dedicated men?  Check out F3 and find a location in your city.  It's FREE and open to all men.
 

Men know how to push through pain, don't we?  We work harder.We stay busy.  We grind.  We compete, and we stay mentally tough.
But many of us have no idea what to do with sadness, fear, loneliness, rejection, or grief.
So we shut down.  Withdraw.  Get angry. Numb out, or quietly disappear emotionally from the people we love most.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we’re talking about emotional courage and why awareness may be one of the hardest — and healthiest — things a man can learn.
Steve also shares pieces of his own story from The Father Eclipse, including how unresolved father wounds and emotional disconnection can impact marriage, fatherhood, identity, and our relationship with God.
Get a copy today on Amazon and while you're at it - share it with your men's group and watch the conversations start to change.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Question:  Why do so many of us men know how to work hard, compete hard, and endure hard things - but struggle to identify what we’re actually feeling?
On this episode of  “I Know A Guy” podcast, we’re talking about emotional courage as we start a new 6-part series on "Doing Hard Things."
Why do anger and withdrawal become our default responses?
And why does emotional shutdown quietly wound the people we love most?
Find out on more as we journey together through this new series.
And if today’s episode resonated with you, my new book, The Father Eclipse, dives deeper into father wounds, identity, emotional healing, and becoming whole-hearted men. It's available right now Amazon.  
Are you looking for Fitness, Faith and Fellowship with a group of dedicated men?  Check out F3 and find a location in your city.  It's FREE and open to all men.

What kind of legacy are you building right now?  Not someday—TODAY.
In the final episode of our It Stops With Me series, we bring everything together and look at what your life is actually producing in the people around you.
Because legacy isn’t about what you leave behind.  It’s about what you live out daily. This episode will challenge you to step into intentional leadership—so what gets passed down isn’t pain—but identity, truth, and life.
What you’re stepping into right now—it’s not just about your life. It’s about your kids, your family and generations you may never even meet.
I want to point you to something that can help you keep going. I wrote The Father Eclipse for this exact reason. To help men see clearly what’s been shaping them and step into the truth of who they are as beloved sons.
It’s not a long book.
It’s written like a one-on-one conversation—something you can read in one or two sittings.
It’s available now on Amazon.  If you pick one up, thank you. And if you leave a review, that would mean more than you know.
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Your words are shaping more than you think.
In Episode 5 of our current series on reversing generational curses, It Stops With Me, we dive into the power of your voice—and how what you say today becomes the internal voice your family carries tomorrow.
Most men are repeating what was spoken over them without even realizing it.
But you don’t have to.
This episode is about breaking that cycle—and learning how to speak life, identity, and truth into the people around you.
Because your words don’t just impact the moment…
They shape legacy.
If this topic of generational patterns and legacy hits home for you, I unpack this even more in my newly released book,
The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped
Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again
Because what remains unhealed in one generation often gets repeated in the next.  It's now available on Amazon.  Get a two copies and give one to another man who needs to hear this.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.