I Know a Guy Podcast

What does it actually look like to become the man you never had?
In Episode 4 of It Stops With Me, we move from breaking patterns… to building something new.
Because it’s not enough to say, “I don’t want to repeat the past.”
You have to decide who you’re becoming instead.
Through real-life examples and powerful biblical models, this episode will challenge you to step into a new way of living—marked by presence, strength, and intentional love.
This is where legacy starts to take shape.
And if you want to go deeper into this journey, my new book,
The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped
Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again
is available now on Amazon. Grab a copy and get an extra one for another guy who needs to hear this.

At some point, every man has to make a decision.  Will I keep blaming my past—or will I start leading my life?
In Episode 3 of our current series on I Know a Guy, It Stops With Me, we make the turn from awareness to ownership.
Because your story matters—but it doesn’t get to define you.
Blame will keep you stuck.Ownership will set you free.
This episode is about stepping out of victim thinking—and into the identity of a man who leads himself first.
If this topic of generational patterns and legacy hits home for you, I unpack this even more in my newly released book,
The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped
Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again.
Because what remains unhealed in one generation often gets repeated in the next.  It's now available on Amazon.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

What if the struggles you’re facing right now didn’t actually start with you?
What if the anger… the distance… the pressure… the way you react under stress—was shaped long before you even realized it?
In Episode 1 of this new series on I Know a Guy, It Stops With Me, we’re uncovering how generational patterns are formed—and how they get passed down.
But more importantly—how they can stop with you.
You are not stuck.You are not doomed to repeat the past.
This is where awareness begins—and where legacy starts to change.
If today's episode resonates with you, my new book:
The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity
and How to See God Clearly Again"
goes even deeper into how our earthly fathers shape the way we see ourselves… and God.
It’s available now on Amazon.

What if the struggles you’re facing right now didn’t actually start with you?
What if the anger… the distance… the pressure… the way you react under stress—was shaped long before you even realized it?
In Episode 1 of this new series on I Know a Guy, "It Stops With Me," we’re uncovering how generational patterns are formed—and how they get passed down.
But more importantly—how they can stop with you.
You are not stuck.You are not doomed to repeat the past.
This is where awareness begins—and where legacy starts to change.
“You are not stuck.You are not doomed to repeat the past.
This is where awareness begins—and where legacy starts to change.
And if this conversation resonates with you, my new book,
The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped
Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again
goes even deeper into how our earthly fathers shape the way we see ourselves and God.
It’s available now on Amazon.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Father’s Day is over — but what if the real impact of it is just beginning?
In this special episode of I Know a Guy, we slow down and reflect on what surfaced this weekend— the gratitude, the tension, the silence.
And ask a deeper question:  What is God inviting you into right now?
Because healing doesn’t happen by accident.
It happens when we choose to lean in.
if this episode resonates with you, my new book,
The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped
Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again
goes even deeper into how our earthly fathers shape the way we see ourselves… and God.
It’s available now on Amazon.  Get 2 copies and help scatter seed into another man's life who needs to hear this.  
 

What does it look like to be a father—when your kids are grown?
When they’re making their own decisions—and you don’t always agree?
In this episode of I Know a Guy we conclude our Father's Day series as we talk about the shift from raising your kids—to releasing them.
And why holding on too tightly can actually create more distance. Because great fathers don’t control their adult children.
They stay present—so relationship has room to grow.
My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon (< click the link) —designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 

The teenage years change everything.  What used to work—doesn’t anymore.
And many dads respond by tightening control—which only creates more distance.
All this week we've been focusing on Father's Day coming up on Sunday and in today's episode of I Know a Guy we talk about what’s really happening when your teenager pulls away—and how to shift from control to connection.
Because your influence as a father isn’t over.
It just needs to look different.
My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

What if the biggest mistake fathers make—isn’t what they do—but what they miss?
In the early years of childhood—your presence shapes your child’s identity more than anything else.  Not your provision. Not your success.
Your presence.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about what it means to avoid becoming a “Father Eclipse”— a dad who’s physically there, but emotionally absent.
Because your kids don’t need a perfect dad.
They need a present one.
My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.
Check out the song Steve mentioned on today's podcast by Phillips, Craig and Dean called, "I Want to Be Just Like You."
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Not every man grew up with a broken relationship with his father.
Some had a great dad.
Present.Engaged.Consistent.
And that’s a gift.
But here’s the question:
Are you intentionally building on that legacy—or just assuming it will carry itself forward?
As we continue with Part 3 of our Father's Day series, today on I Know a Guy, we talk about what it means to steward what you were given—and why even a great foundation still requires a decision.
Because legacy isn’t inherited.  It’s reproduced.
 
My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 

Some men didn’t just grow up without a father.  They grew up being wounded by one.
All this week on I Know a Guy we are preparing our hearts for Father's Day on Sunday.  Today we’re talking about the impact of abusive, controlling, or absent fathers—and how those wounds follow us into adulthood.
Into our relationships.Into our identity.Into how we show up as men.
But also this:
What does it actually look like to heal?
Not minimize it.Not ignore it.But face it - and move forward.
This might be the episode you didn’t know you needed.
 
My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.
Song mentioned on this podcast: "My Old Man" by Zac Brown Band
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.