I Know a Guy Podcast

Some men didn’t just grow up without a father.  They grew up being wounded by one.
All this week on I Know a Guy we are preparing our hearts for Father's Day on Sunday.  Today we’re talking about the impact of abusive, controlling, or absent fathers—and how those wounds follow us into adulthood.
Into our relationships.Into our identity.Into how we show up as men.
But also this:
What does it actually look like to heal?
Not minimize it.Not ignore it.But face it - and move forward.
This might be the episode you didn’t know you needed.
 
My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.
Song mentioned on this podcast: "My Old Man" by Zac Brown Band
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 

What if the story you’ve believed about your father has shaped more of your life than you realize?
Today on I Know a Guy we’re talking to the man who grew up without a father.
The absence.The questions.The drive to prove… or the temptation to quit.
But also this:
What if you were never actually fatherless?
What if God has been stepping into that space all along?
This Father’s Day series might change the way you see your past—and the kind of man you become moving forward.
 
My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.
 

In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we look at the parable of the soils from Gospel of Matthew 13—and ask an honest question:
What’s really going on in your heart right now?
Because these aren’t just four types of people… they’re four conditions of the heart—and we drift between them more than we think.
As we prepare to step into Fatherhood, this episode will help you examine what’s growing beneath the surface—and why it matters.
My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we bring everything together—from emotional courage to healing—and ask the question:
What are you going to do with it?
Because awareness without action doesn’t change anything.
And the step you take right now won’t just affect you—it will shape your relationships, your future, and your legacy.
This is a moment to stop circling the same patterns and take one real step forward.
My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we move beyond awareness and ask a harder question:
How bad do you actually want healing?
Because wanting it… and pursuing it… are not the same thing.
We’ll look at how Jesus invited people into healing—not passively, but through movement, courage, and action—and what that means for you right now.
If you’ve been stuck in the same patterns and wondering why nothing’s changing… this episode will challenge you to take your next step.
My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

In today’s episode of I Know a Guy, we step into a powerful moment from Gospel of John 5—where Jesus asks a man who’s been stuck for 38 years a question that feels almost unnecessary:
“Do you want to get well?”
But instead of saying yes… the man gives reasons, excuses, and comparisons.
And if we’re honest… we do the same.
This episode is an invitation to look beneath the surface and ask a deeper question:
Do you actually want healing—or have you learned to live without it?
My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

What if the reason you keep going back to the same struggle isn’t a lack of discipline—but a lack of emotional courage?
You can’t heal what you won’t face.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we talk about what emotional courage actually looks like for a man—how it begins with honesty, moves into the light, and leads toward real healing. If you’ve been stuck in cycles you can’t seem to break, this conversation will challenge you to take one simple, but powerful step toward freedom.
My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again," is available now on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

Most men don’t struggle with courage—they struggle with emotional courage.
We’ll face pressure, responsibility, and external challenges without hesitation. But when it comes to what’s happening inside—pain, shame, and unresolved wounds—we tend to avoid it, bury it, or numb it.
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we explore why even the strongest men struggle to face their inner world, and the hidden cost of continuing to avoid it. You’ll hear a powerful story from rehab that reframes what true courage really looks like—and why ignoring what’s beneath the surface will eventually impact every area of your life.
Get a copy of Steve's new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity—and How to See God Clearly Again." It is now available on Amazon—designed as a short, powerful read to help men move from hiding to living as a beloved son.
 
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.

What if the most loving thing you could do… is say no?
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we break down how to love with clarity, boundaries, and identity—without losing yourself in the process or feeling like you’re being unkind.
Because real love isn’t about managing people’s emotions—it’s about being grounded enough to tell the truth and stay present.
And this message ties directly into my new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again."is now available on Amazon.
I’m giving all proceeds during this 3-day public launch that ends today to Fathers in the Field, helping mentor boys who don’t have a father in the home.
So grab a copy, pass one along to another man, and if it speaks to you, I’d be incredibly grateful if you’d take a minute to leave a review on Amazon—it really helps get this message into more hands.

Most men think being “nice” equals being loving.  But what if it’s actually fear—fear of conflict, fear of rejection, fear of not being liked?
In this episode of I Know a Guy, we expose the hidden trap of people pleasing—and how trying to keep everyone happy is quietly costing you your identity, your peace, and your relationships.
And we connect it to something bigger.
My new book, "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again" is now available on Amazon —and for the first 72 hours, June 1 through June 3, I’m donating all proceeds to Fathers in the Field, a national ministry mentoring boys without fathers to help them avoid their own father eclipse.
So grab a copy for yourself—and maybe one for another man—and if it impacts you, leaving a quick review on Amazon would mean more than you know.  Be blessed.
I am Your Beloved"  Written by Jonathan David Helser and Brandon Lake.  Performed by Jonathan and Melissa Helser.  ℗ & © 2022 Bethel Music. All Rights Reserved. Used by Permission.